It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People by Durvasula, Ramani

INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER From clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissism AN OPEN FIELD PUBLICATION FROM MARIA SHRIVER It's not always easy to tell when you're dealing with a narcissistic person. One day they draw you in with their charm and charisma, the next they gaslight you, wreck your self-esteem, and leave you wondering, What should I have done differently? As Dr. Ramani explains in It's Not You, the answer is: absolutely nothing. Just as a tiger can't change its stripes, a narcissist will not stop manipulating and invalidating you, no matter how much you try to appease them. The first step toward healing from their toxic influence--and to protect yourself from future harm--is to accept that you are not to blame for their behavior. Drawing on more than two decades of studying the landscape of narcissism and working with survivors, Dr. Ramani explores how